### FOR PARENTS ONLY

and questions I am trying to ask as a parent.

• "Hey Coach, why is ___'s time not as fast as John's?"
• "Why is he still breathing late?"
• "Coach, why haven't you fixed his start?"
• "Why doesn't he have more Southeastern times?"
• "Why haven't you fixed his streamline?"

TRY QUESTIONS LIKE THESE:
• Does ___listen to you carefully?  Does he apply your suggestions?
• How is ___'s work ethic?  And please be honest.
• How does he perform when circumstances are challenging?
• Is he resilient?
• Can you push ___ harder?  Can you push him to a breaking point? That will happen in life and I would like to see how he responds.
• Does he remain positive during difficult sets?
• Does he complain?  I would prefer that he not complain, and I encourage you to let him know that it is not acceptable, regardless of the reason.
• Does ___ remain focused and not too social or too disconnected?
• Does he make sacrifices?  Is he practicing enough for his expected outcomes?
• ___ tends to be a leader.  Is he leading in the right direction?  (or: Swimmer tends to be a follower.  Is he following the right people?)
• Does ___ volunteer to help?
• Do you respect ___?  If not, why?
• Does ___ support teammates in a workout?  Is he ever exclusive?
• I would like him to be a helper to the team.  Can you make sure he helps set up, clean up, etc.?
• I know this is not your job as a coach, but I would like to be notified immediately if you ever see: ___ being disrespectful; shirking any responsibility; not being fully committed in a workout; or seems distant.
• How can I support you and our team?